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Mother’s Day Gift Ideas: Buying for Seniors

Wednesday, May 9th, 2012

Mother’s Day is next Sunday, May 13. Traditionally the second Sunday in May, Mother’s Day became an official holiday in 1914.  Mother’s Day gift ideas often center around spring and it’s an especially fun holiday to celebrate and shop for.

purple iris make a great Mother's Day gift ideas bouquetHere are a few Mother’s Day gift ideas that might inspire you!

  • The traditional Mother’s Day brunch or lunch, with a nice card
  • Flowers or a blooming plant
  • Seeds or plants for the garden, and a gift certificate for some planting help
  • Blossom-scented soaps and lotions
  • A pretty spring-colored cardigan
  • Flower-themed cards or stationery, and stamps
  • a gift in her name to a favorite non-profit or organization
  • Alter flowers in her honor at church
  • a basket of favorite foods
  • a card filled with gift certificates for help around the house or yard or road trips to favorite place
  • movie gift cards, or perhaps a NetFlix subscription
  • Tickets to a concert or summer theater or trip to the Maine Botanic Gardens
  • an appointment for a multi-generational family portrait

Experiences and time count for alot, but it you’re far away, helping your mom enjoy something that’s special to her is one of the great Mother’s Day gift ideas. Does she finally have time for painting lessons? Has she always longed to learn how to hook rugs, play the piano or learn French? Italian or Chinese cooking classes? An exercise program?

One of the best Mother’s Day gift ideas is simply to write a long letter, detailing a few favorite memories, and thanking mom for the time she spent raising you. 

 

Grandchildren and College: College Tuition Help from Grandparents

Saturday, April 14th, 2012

Have you always planned to help your grandchildren pay for college? With the price of college nowadays, college tuition help from grandparents matters more than ever. There are several ways you can help them with college expenses and save on your tax bill at the same time.

Here are three tips to help grandchildren pay for college.

College Tuition Help from Grandparents

1. Write a Check to the Child

Just as in 2011, you can give a grandchild $13,000 in cash a year — or $26,000 if your spouse joins in the gift — without incurring gift tax implications. Write the check and give it to your grandchild. Still have time before college? Set up a custodial account at a bank, mutual fund or brokerage firm. The money can be used for tuition or other college-related expenses.

2. Give Stock

College tuition help from grandparents can also take the form of appreciated stock or other investments. If you give appreciated stock or other investments to your college-bound grandkids, your family can potentially cut the capital gains tax bill. Let’s say you want to sell stock you’ve owned two years to free up some cash for tuition. You will probably pay 15 percent capital gains tax rate on the profit. But you can give a certain amount to your grandkids at a lower tax rate.

Keep in mind that if your child is under age 19, or age 24 if a full-time student, the Kiddie Tax rules may apply.

college tuition help from grandparentsIf a child affected by the Kiddie Tax rules receives “unearned income” above a $1,900 threshold in 2012 (unchanged from 2011), the excess is taxed at the top tax rate of the child’s parents. In other words, a portion of your child’s earnings could be taxed at a rate of up to 35 percent. If the threshold is not exceeded, the Kiddie Tax doesn’t apply for that year. If it is exceeded, only unearned income in excess of the threshold gets taxed at the parents’ higher rates.

3. Pay Tuition Yourself

Tuition can be paid directly to a financial institution with no gift tax implications, under current tax law,  but the money cannot pass through the hands of grandchildren (or their parents) first. It has to go right to the university. This approach might be appealing if you’re worried about the youngsters spending it frivolously.

This tax break applies only to tuition and can’t be used to pay room, board and other college expenses. However, you can still give your grandchild a cash gift of up to $13,000 in 2012 (unchanged from 2011) to cover those other expenses ($26,000 if your spouse joins in the gift) and not incur any gift tax implications. College tuition help from grandparents: the gift that keeps on giving.

Off Their Rockers-Betty White’s new show

Tuesday, April 3rd, 2012

Betty White is at it again with a new show highlighting spoofs on senior stereotypes. The Premier is tomorrow night! I am tuning in! You?

http://www.nbc.com/betty-whites-off-their-rockers/about/

“It’s [old age] not a surprise, we knew it was coming – make the most of it. So you may not be as fast on your feet, and the image in your mirror may be a little disappointing, but if you are still functioning and not in pain, gratitude should be the name of the game.”
― Betty White, If You Ask Me

Art and Alzheimers: new program fosters creativity

Wednesday, March 28th, 2012

Studies have shown that art therapy might be particularly beneficial for people with Alzheimer’s disease because though they gradually lose the ability to express themselves with words, other parts of their brain that deal with colors and composition can still be used and developed. Even people with advanced Alzheimer’s disease can continue to create art.

Cape Memory Care in Cape Elizabeth recently started art classes in the Art is 4 Every1® method, developed by Elaine Griffith of Massachusetts during the nearly 25 years she taught at nursing homes, senior centers, kids camps and in her studio. It is a method that breaks the painting process into small steps, as tiny and as simplified as is needed according to the ability and experience of the student.

Pat Moshimer,  Maine’s only certified Art is 4 Every1 instructor, brings her program into Cape Memory Care in Cape Elizabeth every week. As Cape Memory Care residents, right, participate in the weekly Art is 4 Every1® class, they practice small motor control, visualization and perspective just as artists without memory impairment do. Pat has been a scribe and illustrator for 30 years in the Kennebunk/Kennebunkport area. Arts for Everyone art class at Cape Memory Care, Cape Elizabeth, Maine

Pat’s students remain remarkably creative and the painting program gives them an outlet for communication in a different and often very vibrant way. Is there an art show in the works? Will there be plein air classes as the weather improves?  To find out more about this program, please call Olga Gross-Balzano or Bri Johnston at Cape Memory Care, 207-553-9616 or e-mail olgagross@woodlandsalf.com.

Maine Senior FarmShare Program: fresh produce for Maine seniors

Monday, March 19th, 2012

March is sign-up time for low-income seniors who want to participate in the Maine Senior FarmShare Program. You can receive $50 worth of fresh produce throughout the season from a participating farm. (Farmers often have trucks at area farmer’s markets, and you can pick up your produce there.)  To qualify, seniors must be 60 years or age or older (55 for native Americans), be a Maine resident, and not live in the household or be an immediate family member of the farmer.

lady holds fresh tomatosman holding fresh head of lettuceIncome criteria in 2012 are: Live alone and have an income below $20,036.00 or have a combined incomed (with a spouse) below $26,955. (Both can have a share, but each must sign up.)

The Senior FarmShare program is very popular, and seniors must sign up each year, even if they were with a farmer last year. You can only sign up with one farmer each year.

Here’s more information, including a list of participating FarmShare farmers.

 

Bucket List: not just a New Year’s Resolution

Thursday, February 23rd, 2012

New Year’s Resolutions, Bucket Lists, and Other Ways to Live Your Best Life

by Dr. Len Kayes, guest writer in MAINE SENIORS Magazine

The 2007 film The Bucket List portrays two terminally ill men, Edward Cole and Carter Chambers (played by Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman, respectively) who escape from a cancer ward and head off on a road trip with a wish list of “to-dos” before they die. Included in their list was skydiving, driving a race car, flying over the North Pole, riding motorcycles on the Great Wall of China, and going on a lion safari in Africa. This touching comedy/drama reminds us that there is much that can be accomplished in life regardless of our age or health status and striving to have new experiences before we die can be exceedingly satisfying and meaningful.

Call it what you like — a set of New Year’s resolutions, a bucket list of hopes and dreams, or a life list of goals and objectives — reaching out for new experiences can represent an exciting road map for achieving your best life. And, let there be no doubt about it – it is never too late to develop and enact such a plan. The arrival of 2012 represents a great time to plan your future, whatever your age.

Marelisa Fabrega, the author of How to Live Your Best Life, tells us that a life list is simply a set of goals which cover all the different areas of your life. Taken seriously, it can represent a powerful tool for making sure that you decide what you want to do and have in life, and who you want to be, and that you take the necessary action to accomplish these things.

Remember that bucket lists are not just for those in the latter stages of life. While bucket lists are meant to contain accomplishments that you want to achieve before you “kick the bucket”, you can build your list as early in your life as you choose. Everyone, regardless of age, deserves to have aspirations, hopes, and dreams yet to be realized but consistently sought after. Walt Disney put it well when he said “all our dreams can come true—if we have the courage to pursue them.”

Prudence Searl, 63, of Bangor has a bucket list – she wants to tour the western United States and see the Grand Canyon. She also wants to go to Florida one day and drive down one side of the state and up the other visiting the many friends she has living there…then return to Disney World along the way. She wants to do it in a new Toyota Camry, also on her bucket list.

Sara Dimmick, 65, of Augusta also has a bucket list. She tells me she would like to visit the pyramids in Egypt, travel to Australia, learn about other religions, and become proficient in a language other than her own – probably Spanish.

And, so does Frank Ober, 69, of Whitefield. Frank considers his bucket list to be a “to- do” list which tends to include various projects that “need” to get done or “have” to be done and are not necessarily projects that he “wants” to do. Included on his list was painting the garage floor (already accomplished), and building a sunroom and both refurbishing and expanding the deck that is attached to his house (yet to be accomplished). He checks his list regularly and he says it helps to keep him focused.

It seems that a lot of people tend to have various life goals that fall into one or more of the following categories. These may serve as a useful guide for readers to organize their own personal bucket lists:

*Adventure
*Career
*Entertainment
*Family
*Finances/Money
*Friends/Friendships
*Fun
*Health
*Hobbies
*Home
*Learning/Education
*Love/Love Life
*Marriage
*Relationships
*Self-improvement
*Spiritual Life
*Sports
*Travel

Here are a few suggestions to consider when developing your own bucket list:

  • Make sure that your list contains things that YOU really want to accomplish, obtain, or do. Don’t be influenced by the opinions of others. After all, it is YOUR list so let it contain things you want to have, things you want to do, things you want to be, places you want to visit, and people you want to meet. It should be about what you find meaningful and what brings you joy.
  • Even though the list is yours doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t share it with others. Go public with it. Doing so can give you additional motivation and incentive to pursue the items on the list. And, those you share your dreams with may be able to help you achieve them by offering helpful words of advice. Research actually suggests that success in reaching your goals is more likely when your goals are made public and support is received from friends. You may also discover along the way that your dreams are held by others and that pursuing them can become a joint venture.
  • Try to include some far reaching or longer term goals as well as some that are probably more easily attainable in the short term. The things you want should be a mix of both exceedingly challenging as well as more attainable accomplishments. Also, it is OK to think big, be creative, and go outside your comfort zone. If what you want is to lose weight, exercise more, and eat healthier, that is fine but don’t be afraid to reach beyond the usual resolutions–that are too often broken before the first week has passed.
  • Remember, and this is very important, don’t waste time creating your personalized bucket list if you don’t intend to take the actions required to achieve the items on it. Being engaged in goal setting, including keeping track of small but measurable progress toward reaching your goal, is helpful as well. Ultimately, however, whether you succeed or not may be less important than being able to honestly say you tried. And, maintaining a life list, even though you eventually are unable to achieve all that you set out to accomplish, in and of itself is a sign of an active mind, a vibrant spirit, and a motivated and positive thinker. It can help give you continued meaning, purpose, structure, identity, and direction in life as you grow older.

We have one precious life to live – be it resolved that in 2012 and beyond that we will live it well – with purpose and identifiable goals that we aspire to achieve.

Georgianna Preacher: Brunswick poet exhibits at USM

Thursday, February 16th, 2012

Congratulations to Georgianna Preacher, a resident of Thornton Oaks in Brunswick who is featured as a solo exhibitor at the Chappell Center for Book Arts at USM. The exhibit is open from February 1 to April 30. Mark your calendar for her artist’s reception Saturday, April 7.

 


















Happy Valentine Anniversary, Elbridge and Doris!

Tuesday, February 14th, 2012

90 years ago today, Elbridge Hutchinson McLean and Doris Horton Dennison were married in Portland, Maine. He, despite his tremor from being gassed in France, where he’d been a motorcycle dispatch rider and horse-drawn ambulence driver. She, despite watching her first fiance die of tuberculosis after they both graduated from art school. Both were much older than the average newlyweds, but that happened in war time.

February 14, 1922 was very probably a colder Valentine’s Day than the one we’re having. The world was recovering from World War I; my grandparents lived in the time of Downton Abbey and courted through written notes asking for chaperoned dates. The fact that she was 29 and he was 31 probably still did not allow them much alone time.

They married and the artist became a mother in a small mill town in the western Maine mountains.  The family celebrated their 50th anniversary on Valentine’s Day in 1972. It was my senior year in high school and I was a newly-minted romantic, being firmly in love with one of my small town’s “bad boys” that my McLean grandparents thought very handsome and polite, but a little wild. I was sure I would marry him and we, too, would have 50 years of overall happiness, while suffering through tragedies together as my grandparents had.

I never heard my grandfather speak a single disrespectful word of or to my grandmother. It had been his idea to marry on Valentine’s Day and I believe he loved and respected her all his life. My grandmother made crisp sugar cookies and soft boiled eggs and oatmeal for his breakfast every morning for 50 years; she was of a generation that showed her love through care and cooking. She never tutted over him, but always firmly told us what would please Grandfather,which is what we were expected to do. She liked petunias; he grew petunias. He liked a simple yellow cake with fudge frosting; it was in the pantry weekly.

She wore a dress and stockings (not panty hose) almost every time I saw her. He wore string ties. She washed, he wiped. He was the one who scrubbed the kitchen floor. She was the one who made sure the cream on the top of the milk bottle was saved for his coffee. Their mutual affection and care for each other is still an example for me of what a long marriage means. Mammie and Grandfather, I remember: Love is a verb. It’s an action word. Thank you.


Senior Love: Valentines for seniors

Monday, February 13th, 2012

Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day, and if you’re searching for a last minute valentine for a senior, what could be better than a song? Song lyrics make perfect Valentine sentiments, and it’s fun when they’re from a special era. Here are a few from the last 70 years.

1940s

Be Careful, It’s My Heart

Sweetheart of mine, I’ve sent you a valentine.
Sweetheart of mine, it’s more than a valentine.
Be careful, it’s my heart. 

Day by Day

Day by day I’m falling more in love with you
And day by day my love seems to grow
There isn’t any end to my devotion
It’s deeper dear by far than any ocean

1950s

Earth Angel

Earth angel, earth angel
Will you be mine?
My darling dear
Love you all the time
I’m just a fool
A fool in love with you

In the Still of the Night

In the still of the night
I held you
Held you tight
‘Cause I love
Love you so
Promise I’ll never
Let you go
In the still of the night

Why do fools fall in love?

Why do fools fall in love?
Why do birds sing so gay?
And lovers await the break of day
Why do they fall in love?

1960s

I’m a  Believer

I thought love was was more or less a giving thing
Seemed the more I gave the less I got
Love was out to get me
That’s the way it seemed
Disapointment haunted all my dreams Then I saw her  face, now I’m a believer
there’s not a trace of doubt in my mind!
I’m in love, I’m a believer,
I couldn’t leave her if I tried….

I got you babe

I got you to hold my hand
I got you to understand
I got you to walk with me
I got you to talk with me
I got you to kiss goodnight
I got you to hold me tight
I got yo, I won’t let go
I got you to love me so

1970s

Just the Way You Are

Don’t go changing, to try and please me
You never let me down before
Don’t imagine you’re too familiar
And I don’t see you anymore
I wouldn’t leave you in times of trouble
We never could have come this far
I took the good times, I’ll take the bad times
I’ll take you just the way you are

You’ve got A Friend
when you’re down and troubled
and you need a helping hand
and nothing, no nothing is going right
just close your eyes and think of me
and soon I will be there
to brighten up even your darkest night

1980s

Total Eclipse of the Heart
Turnaround, every now and then I know
you’ll never be the boy you always wanted to be
Turnaround, every now and then I know
you’ll always be the only boy who wanted me the way that I am
Turnaround, every now and then I know
there’s no one in the universe as magical and wonderous as you
Turnaround, every now and then I know
there’s nothing any better and there’s nothing I just wouldn’t do
Turnaround bright eyes, Every now and
then I fall apart

All Out of Love
I’m all out of love, I’m so lost without you
I know you were right believing for so long
I’m all out of love, what am I without you
I can’t be too late to say that I was so wrong

1990s

I will always love youI hope
life treats you kind
And I hope
you have all you’ve dreamed of
And I wish you joy
and happiness
But above all this
I wish you love

Can you feel the love tonight?
And can you feel the love tonight
It is where we are
It’s enough for this wide-eyed wanderer
That we got this far
And can you feel the love tonight
How it’s laid to rest
It’s enough to make kings and vagabonds
Believe the very best
There’s a time for everyone if they only learn
That the twisting kaleidoscope moves us all in turn
There’s a rhyme and reason to the wild outdoors
When the heart of this star-crossed voyager beats in time with yours.

Happy Valentine’s Day from Lynn and Deborah



High School Community Service Project: Empowering Seniors with Technology

Sunday, January 29th, 2012

Empowering Seniors With Technology

by Cynthia Sargent, former Yarmouth teacher, urges increased support for senior computer literacy and suggests that high schools students could earn their community service hours by developing computer tutoring programs for seniors.

In 2003 my 84 year old father attempted to modernize his life by purchasing a basic computer. I was delighted to see him enter the age of technology with a tool that could enhance his life. By e-mailing children and grandchildren, he would bridge the miles that separate us and be more connected with our lives. He could satisfy his intellect by researching topics through cyberspace. What might have been a life-enhancing step toward modernity, became a frustrating experience resulting in his cancellation of Internet service, reducing this powerful tool to a simple word processor. If he had obtained technological support, he would have succeeded in joining the digital age.

Today, adults can access technology instruction through employers, local community services, libraries, professional consultants, retail stores and on-line. But, these services are not easily accessible to all. I recently contacted several local community service directors, librarians, and activities directors in senior centers. They reported that technology support exists for adults and seniors in Cumberland County, but are centered primarily in larger communities (Portland and Brunswick) and newer assisted living residences.  It is impressive and encouraging that such providers are committed to this mission. While efforts are being made to broaden senior citizens’ use of computers, the services in Cumberland County appear inconsistent. And, while worthwhile programs exist, access is difficult for seniors who are confined. Communities could develop a bank of competent volunteers who could help seniors use computers in their homes. High school students could earn community service hours in this effort.

Many baby-boomers and their parents (from The Greatest Generation) are “digital immigrants” (Marc Prensky, 2001). They approach technology like a foreign language, timidly and lacking confidence.  In contrast, modern youths are “digital natives,” speaking the language of the computer age from their earliest years. In 2002, I experienced the challenges of a digital immigrant as a 7th grade teacher when  the Maine Laptop Initiative was introduced. Similarly, many adults learn technology in the workplace, their skills practiced and acquired over time. Yet, I remain concerned for isolated seniors who lack the access necessary to build their computer understanding and skills. I challenge individuals and communities to expand resources for seniors, particularly those who are confined.

The potential of computer literacy is limitless. Consider the extensive life experience and knowledge the aging population offers, how they can enhance their own lives and also contribute to others. Imagine a myriad of blogs focused on common interests, comments exchanged across digital space on topics both intellectual and practical. Think about the excitement of finding a former classmate through social media or previously unknown ancestors from a genealogical search. In addition to personal interests, there are many essential practical uses. Institutions (banks, utilities, retailers, etc.) increasingly expect clients to communicate via technology.  Computer literacy has become a necessity, not merely a luxury. The State of Maine has taken steps to improve computer access and skills through the  Maine State Library BTOP Grant (Department of Commerce, 2010). This funds “projects to establish new public computer facilities or upgrade existing ones that provide broadband access to the general public or to specific vulnerable populations, such as low-income individuals, the unemployed, seniors, children, minorities, and people with disabilities.” It is reassuring to know that seniors are among the targeted groups.

Seniors can attain goals that improve their computer skills, knowledge, confidence, and enjoyment, which can enrich and empower their lives. I challenge our communities to develop or expand resources to improve seniors’ computer literacy, offering them a helping hand into the present.

My father remained mentally alert until his death three years later.  Imagine the opportunities he missed without access to the Web: pursuing interest in history, traveling the world on virtual tours, reading breaking news about the stock market and world events. Medical websites could have helped him manage his health. While I cannot change my father’s experience, I can encourage communities to assist aging citizens with technology. Building seniors’ skills and understanding of computers can enrich their lives.


Cynthia H. Sargent, 7th Grade Teacher,Yarmouth (Retired 2009). Language Arts, Social Studies, B.A. English. University of Massachusetts, 1970   M.S. Ed. in Literacy Education, University of Southern Maine, 1992